Filipina Dating Exposed

While the title may lead one to believe I have some dirty little secrets, that is not what this article is about. It is more about the lopsided effort I see in Filipina dating between the guys and the ladies. It may be due to the economy, a growing sense of “western entitlement”, or perhaps other reasons. Today many Western men are unwilling to provide basic profile information. The “basics” are a recognizable picture and a decent written profile to have unlimited access to a free website.

Most Filipinas are joining MelindasPenpals.com with a decent profile and picture. While English may not be their natural language, Filipinas are still providing enough information to indicate they are serious about finding a partner. Many Western guys, on the other hand, show a complete lack of effort during the registration process. Follow up emails with instructions on the few steps needed to complete profiles usually go ignored.

At one point I decided it might be best to relax the profile requirements just to get more male members. Approving hundreds of Filipinas every month and a handful of guys does not leave the ladies much chance at making a connection. Filipina ladies make up 70% of our newly approved members over the past 6 months. So a decision had to be made about how to deal with a decreasing male membership base.

After much soul searching, and discussions with people that help me run MelindasPenpals.com, a decision was reached. We will not relax the already minimal requirements for men to become members. Whether it is a sense of entitlement, laziness, the economy, this should not lower our standards for membership. None of the reasons for failing to present oneself as a decent guy are good ones.

My observations lately have lead me to believe many Western guys are more willing to pay for a membership on a site than to complete profile. The majority absolutely refuse to provide a picture. Most pay sites want your credit card number, and after that success or failure is really none of their concern. In fact, a member’s lack of effort and inability to find a partner leave a better chance at a membership renewal.

While our decision to stand firm may slow the long term growth and prospects for the Melinda’s Filipina Penpals and Asian Dating, I am comfortable with the decision. We will remain open and available for all those willing to put forth the minimal effort required to become a member. We also want to thank all the loyal faithful that continue to visit and contribute to our little space on the Internet.