While the title may lead one to believe I have some dirty little secrets, that is not what this article is about. It is more about the lopsided effort I see in Filipina dating between the guys and the ladies. It may be due to the economy, a growing sense of “western entitlement”, or perhaps other reasons. Today many Western men are unwilling to provide basic profile information. The “basics” are a recognizable picture and a decent written profile to have unlimited access to a free website.

Most Filipinas are joining MelindasPenpals.com with a decent profile and picture. While English may not be their natural language, Filipinas are still providing enough information to indicate they are serious about finding a partner. Many Western guys, on the other hand, show a complete lack of effort during the registration process. Follow up emails with instructions on the few steps needed to complete profiles usually go ignored.

At one point I decided it might be best to relax the profile requirements just to get more male members. Approving hundreds of Filipinas every month and a handful of guys does not leave the ladies much chance at making a connection. Filipina ladies make up 70% of our newly approved members over the past 6 months. So a decision had to be made about how to deal with a decreasing male membership base.

After much soul searching, and discussions with people that help me run MelindasPenpals.com, a decision was reached. We will not relax the already minimal requirements for men to become members. Whether it is a sense of entitlement, laziness, the economy, this should not lower our standards for membership. None of the reasons for failing to present oneself as a decent guy are good ones.

My observations lately have lead me to believe many Western guys are more willing to pay for a membership on a site than to complete profile. The majority absolutely refuse to provide a picture. Most pay sites want your credit card number, and after that success or failure is really none of their concern. In fact, a member’s lack of effort and inability to find a partner leave a better chance at a membership renewal.

While our decision to stand firm may slow the long term growth and prospects for the Melinda’s Filipina Penpals and Asian Dating, I am comfortable with the decision. We will remain open and available for all those willing to put forth the minimal effort required to become a member. We also want to thank all the loyal faithful that continue to visit and contribute to our little space on the Internet.

Filipina-Love.com is an online dating community created to assist Filipino women and Western men meet for pen pal, dating and marriage. Free to join.

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With the so many fun and thrills in dating, it is also often said that dating can be very frustrating and in the long run terrifying. But above all that we always tell ourselves to face our fears and just be always prepared when going out on a date.

Well, gentlemen, to get a Filipina date impressed below are your saving tips to win out a perfect night with your date:

1. Groom yourself.

And this means you have to shave. Do not ever come on a date without shaving. You will look old and very unclean. Get that first impression of becoming hygienic. To do this, you have to check yourself in front of the mirror. Check if you nails are cut clean, your hair looks neat and your clothes are perfect.To top the overall clean and nice look, you should be able to also put a nice smelling perfume.

2. Always on time.

As a guy and a gentleman, do not ever get yourself late. It would be a major turn off if you let your Filipina date wait for minutes or hours. A late guy would mean someone who is unreliable and not worth a girl’s time. You can stand five minutes early but never late— always remember that.

3. Be thoughtful.

Always let your Filipina date feel so special by pereparing or buying something for her on your date. A woman should feel extra cared of if the guy is very thoughtful. If you, however, do not have the budget for something fancy, just give her something that would describe her best or a letter made and written by you. There are always gifts that are not expensive but have a lot of thoughts.

4. Become the gentleman you are.

Always think “ladies first”. This way you are showing that she means a lot for you. You get to open the door for her. Let her sit first and always ask her if she is having a great time. Isn’t fantastic? You should become the man of her dreams. Having a Filipina date should also mean being the best gentleman for her as well.

5. Always compliment her.

Remember, you are not the only one who has prepared the night to have a wonderful and fun date. Your Filipina date also had some preparations of her own to make that night extra special. So the first time you saw her, compliment her. Try to say she looks stunning or her dress is a beauty. Always say something good about her but do not overdo it.